Venture Beyond

There’s something I’ve been sitting with for many years now — something that began to take shape after my divorce, and deepened through the loss of another very meaningful relationship.

No one really teaches us how to be in a relationship. We’re taught how to succeed, how to perform, how to navigate the external world. But when it comes to love, intimacy, and building a life with another person — most of us are left to figure it out as we go.

That was certainly true for me. I got married completely in love. We built a family, shared twenty-five years, and there was so much goodness between us. But if I’m honest, a lot of what worked was also luck. We didn’t have the language. We didn’t have the tools. We were improvising with something that deserved to be built with intention. It wasn’t a lack of love. It…

May has always carried the energy of the mother. Of origin. Of where we come from. And this year, inside Seekers Circle, I want to use this month to explore something deeply personal and profound: the inner child.

The inner child is not a metaphor in the abstract sense. It is the living imprint of who we were when we were small. It is the collection of experiences, fears, dreams, wounds, joys, and unmet needs that shaped the way we learned to see the world. It is where our nervous system first learned what was safe and what was not. It is where we formed beliefs about love, about belonging, about money, about power, about worth.

Whether we consciously acknowledge it or not, that younger part of us is still very present.

If our inner child learned that love had to be earned, we may overextend ourselves in relationships.And if…

Ser madre o padre puede ser la experiencia más desafiante del mundo. No por el esfuerzo físico, ni por la logística, ni por las noches sin dormir. Lo que más nos sacude es lo que emerge dentro de nosotros.

La infancia que regresa, las heridas que despiertan, las emociones que nos desbordan… y, casi siempre, la culpa.Nos sentimos culpables por no estar disponibles, por perder la paciencia, por gritar, por no saber cómo acompañar. Nos invade un pensamiento silencioso pero feroz: “No soy suficiente buena mama.” Y desde ahí, empezamos a castigarnos.

Pero… ¿sirve de algo?

Por qué la culpa no repara — y esto es fundamental entenderlo

Aquí está uno de los mayores engaños que cargamos como padres y madres: creemos que sentir culpa nos vuelve mejores personas. Que, si nos castigamos lo suficiente, algo cambiará. Que el sufrimiento interno es una forma de compensar lo que hicimos.

Pero…